Japan is atomized. A Japanese Bapak who loses his job hides in a cyber cafe to avoid shame. In Indonesia, the RT/RW (neighborhood association) knows everything. If Pak RT sees a Bapak not working, the community provides food, odd jobs, or simply nongkrong (hanging out) to stave off depression. Social shaming exists, but social is stronger than in Tokyo.
In Japan, the Bapak ’s shame at losing face leads to hikikomori (social recluses) and a suicide rate of 15 per 100,000 (highest among G7 nations). Japanese men refuse therapy; they drink. japan xxx bapak vs menantu mesum full